7 Keys to a Long Sex Life?>

7 Keys to a Long Sex Life

by Paula Spencer Scott  

Many of the factors linked to continued good sex in older age are in your control. True, your sexual performance may change as testosterone or estrogen levels decline. But research shows that good sex stems from good physical and mental health. Here are seven steps you can take to enjoy sex even in your older years.

1. Relax and enjoy. Self-consciousness about a slack belly or grey hair, or comparing yourself to past sexual performances (or those you've seen in the movies) can get in the way of being in the moment. Try to let go of such thoughts and take pleasure in the touch and closeness right at hand.

2. Manage your stress. Worsening stress is a leading sex zapper.

3. Experiment. The brain loves novelty, the opposite of boredom. Try new positions, new locations, or newly-voiced fantasies. Small change-ups help, too, like shifting where you place your hands or legs—anything that makes sex less rote.

4. Talk. Confident couples can share both desires and problems openly.

5. Use it or lose it. Those who have sex weekly report more satisfaction and better relationships than those who don't.

6. Boost health habits. A healthy diet, exercise, weight control, and other basics matter because for older adults, overall well-being is linked to better sex.

7. Talk with your doctor. Things that you may not be connecting to sex, like a new prescription medication, can affect libido and performance.